Emotional Bondage 1!

Hello y’all! I trust y’all are doing well! Today, I have an interesting topic I would like to talk to you about! In my previous write-up, I talked about Bondage. Now, I want to chip in and talk about emotional bondage in line with relationship affairs involving two individuals. Before I proceed, I would like to tell you my understanding of the meaning of emotional bondage. Emotional bondage can be defined as a mental thought or feelings that keep you in the circle of being totally bonded. Do you want answers to this? Then let’s proceed and learn something new from this story. This is a story or scenario between two individuals in a relationship .

Kobbey and Chantelle met on Facebook and became friends. Kobbey is a young banker while Chantelle is a self-employed budding fashion designer.One thing that drew Kobbey’s attention to Chantelle was her beauty and her fashion designing sense that he admires. After a couple of weeks of friendship, Kobbey proposed to Chantelle and they started dating. From the beginning of the relationship things were moving very smoothly between them because they loved each other dearly. After a few months into relationship, Chantelle began to slack off in the relationship while Kobbey’s commitment to the relationship was very high because to him Chantelle was his dream girl and the future looks certain. For a while, Kobbey thought it was a passing issue so he wasn’t really bothered about Chantelle’s lack of commitment in the relationship. Her attitude continued poorly and that became an issue for him.

Upon discussions between them, Chantelle revealed to Kobbey about her ex boyfriend and how he was self employed and managing his own affairs. According to her she prefers Kobbey to be self employed like her ex. After some deep thought, Kobbey thought it wise enough to engage in a venture that will enable him to gain more leverage by doing extra businesses to make his girlfriend happy and to feel content with him. It was difficult for Kobbey to live another man’s vision for the sake of his girlfriend. The more he tries his best to make things work in the relationship, his girlfriend keeps distancing from him emotionally. This became a major worry for Kobbey to the extent that he forsake his own happiness just to go the extra mile to make Chantelle happy but it seems all his efforts goes unappreciated and unrecognized. At this point, Kobbey was the only person working hard to hold the relationship together without any commitment from Chantelle. As bad as things have turned out, Kobbey could not let go of the relationship because he was emotionally attached  and entangled with Chantelle. As such, this has affected Kobbey’s work rate and performance at work and his overall happiness as a human being. Kobbey was psychologically affected. The sad thing about a toxic relationship or emotional bondage is that although you know you are not happy in the relationship, someway, somehow, you think that things will eventually turn around for good at the end. It becomes a cycle of false hope thinking you will be happy with the person someday. It’s a mirage which will never become a reality.

I would like to conclude here, so expect the continuation from my next write-up. Hope you enjoyed reading! Kindly like and comment and let’s get interactive. Bye😄